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DECEMBER 2008
Christianity grew to become one of the worlds great world religions in part by creatively merging aspects of its own story, theology, and practice with those of Paganism. Thus we have the resurrection of Jesus celebrated in the spring on a holiday known as Easter, in honor of a fertility goddess, and we have the Easter Bunny distributing eggs pagan symbols for fertility. NOVEMBER 2008UUCE has expressed a strong desire to become more of a social action church, with a presence in the Eugene- Springfield area. With skilled lay leadership, the congregation is now poised to take what might be its most important step in that direction: a congregation-wide Social Justice Empowerment weekend workshop (see page 3 for details). This workshop falls between Election Day and Thanksgiving. Perfect. On Election Day may we remember that no matter who becomes President, the nation's leadership will, as it has always done, respond to pressures from groups. Both of the major candidates are politicians, as Wendy often reminds me when I idealize one of them. It's unrealistic to expect any American President not to cut deals, go back on their word, abandon a campaign pledge. We will always need to manage up, or lead the leaders. Our acting and speaking as a congregation (not just a collection of individuals) on one or more select issues will enable us to participate in meaningful public dialogue and influence. Great care needs to be exercised when a congregation, respecting diversity and dissent, considers collective action on an issue, but it is possible to do well. As Alexis de Tocqueville observed in the 19th century classic, Democracy in America, voluntary associations wield tremendous power here. Thanksgiving reminds us that all we do, including social action, is much more fruitful when grounded in gratitude. Activists who have their eye only on what could be or should be, without an appreciation for what is, tend to burn out, alienate others, and be, well, cranky. Activists (and activist communities) who strive for change while also appreciating what is, are more likely to sustain their work, naturally attract allies, experience victories and defeats more graciously, and enjoy themselves along the way! The difference is gratitude. I close with the words of Rev. Dr. Rebecca Parker which I quoted at the end of my October 19 sermon on the prophetic voice: The choice to bless the world is more than an act of will, In faith, OCTOBER 2008Its hard to believe that after more than a year of campaigns for president (beginning with the primaries), the general election is just a month away, and in January we will have a new President of the United States of America. The recent economic crises, with the U.S. considering spending $1 trillion dollars to shore up giant financial institutions and buy mortgages, is a reminder of the power of the President in countless decisions we barely consider, such as the selection of the Secretary of the Treasury. While it may be argued that nearly any head of the Treasury would be pressured to make decisions like this to avoid a deep global recession or even depression, still the power of people at the head of our Federal government is staggering. With whom should we invest this power? I hope and pray for a robust voter turnout in November. I hope and pray my candidate wins! I hope and pray for constructive political dialogue. And, I hope and pray that our church may be respectful and hospitable to anyone who supports the Democratic candidate, the Republican candidate, or a major third-party candidate. Lets not assume that someone is politically liberal because they are religiously liberal. There are plenty of people who whole-heartedly support the ideals of liberal religion, expressed in our Seven Principles among other places, without walking the party line on how these values may be promoted politically. There are Just War UUs and Pacifist UUs, free market, pro-global-economy UUs and anti-globalization, buy-local UUs, libertarians and socialists and everything in-between. Unitarian Universalists take pride in our openness, tolerance, lack of dogma, and willingness to debate. We see truth emerging in conversation, as people learn from one another in respectful dialogue. Lets make sure we are applying these core values to politics, not just tolerating but genuinely valuing other-minded people who can help us think through our values. Maybe an other-minded person will change our mind in some way; maybe talking with them will help us sharpen our arguments; maybe neither will change the mind of the other, but respect and friendship will emerge in the conversation. Lets avoid assuming in coffee hour, meetings, or over email lists that others have like-minded political views. Lets encourage dialogue, lets encourage voting, lets encourage participation. Lets promote the values, policies, and leaders we believe will best lead our country without speaking in a way that suggests people who believe differently are somehow less than us. Lets use Nonviolent Communication or something like it when we talk politics its kind, respectful, and effective. Lets give others and ourselves the gift of curiosity. Doing so will help ensure our congregation is truly diverse in views, and respectful of dissenting opinions
so important to a free and strong liberal church. in faith, SEPTEMBER 2008Welcome to September! Wherever your summer has been, A couple of changes to my practice of ministry this year.... First, my office hours are now Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday mornings (with Monday as a study day and Friday as my day off). I am keeping as many individual meetings as possible on those mornings at church, leaving late afternoons for time with my family. Children need structure and predictability, and, Ive found, a more regular schedule benefits me as well! After years of being a single minister available for meetings at almost any time, I see now how a regular schedule helps me give my best to my church and to my family. Second, for this year, though wearing a stole most of the time, I will not wear a pulpit robe for most Sundays. There may be exceptions for special occasions, but after careful consideration Ive decided that for now the robe needs a rest. Putting on a robe helps me be more conscious of the sacred role I am stepping into, that of worship leader, and it provides a visual clue to others that this is a sacred time. However, in a beautiful but simple setting the robe can put too much focus on the minister himself. The attention and praise heaped on me last year felt most often warm, welcoming, and genuine, but I also felt at times that I was being put on a pedestal, from which one has a long distance to fall. Being the first male minister here in 23 years may have contributed to this dynamic. Attention on the minister distracted at times from our focus (yours and mine) on the ministry we share. So, Im glad to be ministering for and with you, and Im glad youre glad. Now lets work together to integrate deeply the UU principles into our lives. Last year, our special focus was the First Principle of Unitarian Universalism, our commitment to affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of all people. While this principle remains important to us, this year our congregational curriculum is the 7th Principle: respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part. The childrens religious education program, focusing on world religions this year, will lift up teachings similar to our 7th Principle in other religious traditions. Adult programs are being prepared with this theme in mind. I will preach on the First and Seventh Principles as the two pillars of UUism on September 21. I invite youyes, YOU!to think about how we can incorporate this principle into our lives more deeply this year. Please discuss this with any groups or committees you are involved with, and let me know if you need help. My vision is that, by next June, we will have not only studied but also integrated interdependence into our daily lives, as individuals, families, and as a congregation. Two more important updates
. First, the Pastoral Associates program is connecting people in need with skilled, compassionate, spiritual listeners. The Pastoral Associates were trained in April and meet monthly for supervision and support. At the beginning of the Water Communion services on September 7remember to bring water from a special place in your life!I will re-introduce the Pastoral Associates along with the rejuvenated Caring Committee, which assists members and friends with practical needs during transitions or crises. I hope you will not hesitate to contact those who coordinate these groupsKathy Dillon for PA (689-1620) and Bob Coleman (461-0956) for the Caring Committee. Second, a member-organized Adult Programs group is underway. Classes will begin this fall. If you have suggestions for a class or program, or want to nominate someone to lead one, please contact Anna Sontag, who has organized this effort with energy and vision. Along with Small Group Ministry (which begins in winter), our adult programs will help provide the opportunities for small-group learning, discussion, and relationship that many people crave in their church. Please see page 6 for a listing of offerings. We are at an exciting time in this church. Our centennial year (2009) is just around the corner; our building committees are seeking a new home for us; a congregation-wide Social Justice Empowerment workshop is being planned for November. Amid this planning and activity, may we seek to live with true respect for our interdependence, with one another as well as with the earth. In faith, AUGUST 2008Happy Summer!JULY 2008Summer is finally here! Warm, dry weather, work winding down, vacation plans taking shape, and sweet memories of my first year with you rising to the surface as I begin to slow down. I remember last spring after accepting your call, when I suggested to a search committee member that she consider applying her fine matchmaking skills to other areas of my life, and she did, months later passing on to me the phone number of Wendy Ames, now my fiancee. I remember our Halloween Party, how fun it was to lead groups of children and youth through our haunted forest, past zombies and a werewolf and ghosts, and then to come inside to find fortunetellers and apple-bobbers and all sorts of fun and laughter. I remember the rich, meaningful conversations in small groups: the Pastoral Associates training, Worship Associates training, and adult religious education classes on the Enneagram and on William Ellery Channing, founder of American Unitarianism. I was amazed at how often the discussions of Channings sermons took on personal dimensions. And then, of course, the congregational discussions in Februarys listening groups, exploring our hopes and visions for the coming years to guide our property selection processall rich conversations. I take into summer warm memories of intergenerational worship, our choirs singing their hearts out, and the Labor Day workday, how hard we worked and how much fun we had--one hundred of us! I remember seeing the Social Justice Committee begin to take off, the UU Orientation classes bursting at the seams, and the sanctuary so full at some 11 am services that people were sitting on the bookshelves in the library. And always, whether it be in the kitchen or in childcare or on the grounds around the church, people working, often smiling or laughing. I am delighted and honored to be your minister! If youve been working to support and grow our church, I hope you will take some time to appreciate what youve helped to create. Theres more to do, and surely some to do this summer, but this is also a time for rest and replenishment. I will be taking my summer study leave and vacation from July 3 to August 10. This is a time for me to enjoy some time off with my family, to read books I didnt open during the year, and to plan for the coming year without the tugs of immediate tasks. Ill be in and out of town but not coming to meetings, reading email, etc. If you have a pastoral need, please call Pastoral Associates Coordinator Bonnie Romane for a referral through August 9, 2008. Reverend Edgar Peara will also be available for pastoral emergencies. In faith and grace, JUNE 2008During May and June at UUCE, we mark significant rites of passage, including the Coming-of-Age, Moving Up and Bridging ceremonies. On June 8 we will thank outgoing elected leaders and welcome those newly elected. Ive heard often that the lives of ministers and their congregations can dance with one another in interesting ways. Transitions often come in bunches. That seems to be the case with us. On May 17, on the eve of the Coming-of-Age services, I became engaged to marry Wendy Marie Ames, a delightful woman I met here in Eugene. And, over that weekend, with his full consent, I became father to Toraja Matias Ames, Wendys (and now also my) son, who is five years old. 1. Wendy and I have not yet set a date for our wedding. 2. Wendy and Toraja are both baptized Catholics. We will most likely have our wedding in a natural setting in Oregon. Toraja and any other children we have will grow up with both Roman Catholicism and Unitarian Universalism as parts of their childhood. 3. Wendy is a classically trained cultural anthropologist, with a Masters from the University of Oregon. Her areas of special interest have included Southeast Asia, international human rights and, more recently, the intersection of business and anthropology. She currently works in market research for Ipsos Understanding Unlimited of Cincinnati, Ohio. Her perspective as a cultural anthropologist has already proved quite valuable to my ministry. 4. Toraja Matias? The name Toraja (Toh-RAH-jah) is Indonesian and means Heavenly King. Wendy spent a few years living in Indonesia (shes also lived in Japan and in Paris). Matias is Spanish for Matthew and was chosen to honor the part of Torajas heritage linking him to Mexico, and more specifically to Oaxaca. 5. Wendy and Toraja have been attending Sunday services at UUCE about once a month since the beginning of the year, and will likely continue at that rate, also joining me at occasional church social events. In fact, recently Wendy and Toraja enjoyed a Friday night potluck with me, and also brought along three close family friends who have been interested in UUCE over the years. Shes not as churchy as her reverend fiancé, but she does enjoy participating in social events that cultivate family and community. 6. We were introduced by church members and began dating in November. Wendy has lived off and on in the Eugene area since 1996. Toraja was born here in 2003. They returned to Eugene from Cincinnati on July 27, 2007, four days before I arrived, and bought a home in the southwest hills. 7. Having a growing family will limit my availability somewhat, particularly on Saturdays. From now on, an important part of my ministry will be modeling healthy family life. 8. Having a growing family will help me be a better minister in so many ways. Ministers who have strong, healthy family lives are better able to keep things in perspective, rolling with losses and difficulties. They are also better equipped to write and deliver sermons on family life and provide better counseling for it as well! Just a few months in a quasi-parenting role with Toraja has helped me see the personal growth that usually comes with parenting. I am currently on vacation with Wendy and Toraja in Guatemala (May 24 to June 4). We look forward to seeing you at church! In faith and joy, Rev. Steve MAY 2008Church of the Open Heart. Thats how one of your past ministers described the essence of the Unitarian Universalist Church in Eugene in a conversation last spring, when I was in the search process. Other ministers smiled and agreed with these words. The warmth and openness of this community is clear. Most members, it seems to me, feel a sense of caring (in giving as well as receiving), particularly those who are well-established in an ongoing group, whether it be the choir or a mens group, a dedicated committee, a small group ministry group, or an informal gathering of peers, such as parents, young adults, or retirees. Sadly, though, some members are not feeling that warm embrace. Less well known, for whatever reason, the congregations informal caring networks may not reach them. With approximately 400 adult members, our church needs to become more intentional in its inclusiveness. We are blessed with remarkably caring individuals who pay attention to who is missing, send cards, and make hospital visits. I feel blessed to be ministering with such people, such as Kathy Dillon and Sue Craig
and many more than I can name here. Yet even with their efforts, and my making more pastoral care visits in a week than most ministers at churches of this size, we need more. Establishing a Pastoral Associates (PA) program here has been one of my top priorities. PAs are selected and trained by the minister to visit church members and friends in times of transition and those unable to attend church regularly, such as those in nursing homes with limited mobility. Monthly meetings are provided to help them deepen their art of spiritual listening. The content of their visits will be shared only as needed for supervision, and anything shared will be kept confidential. From these meetings and others, I will learn who needs a visit from their minister. Nine UUCE members took my PA training in April: Kathy Dillon and Bonnie Romane, Co-Chairs; along with Kate Savannah, Fred Schultz, and Dianne Watson, all of whom will begin serving as Pastoral Associates immediately; and Betty Boyce, Bob Coleman, Sally DeCou, and Ann Fuller, who will join the program as it grows this year. Co-Chairs Bonnie Romane and Kathy Dillon will serve as PA Coordinators for two-month periods, with Bonnie taking the first two-month term. If you would like a visit from a PA, or know someone who might, tell the Coordinator through the end of June. She will assign Pastoral Associates in consultation with me. The Pastoral Associate visiting you comes not as a professional counselor or social worker but as a spiritual listener. She or he is there to listen with compassion, and perhaps help you engage your situation spiritually, with your deepest or best self. Visits will be up to an hour, with conversations varying from person to person. In the hospital or similar situations, visits will usually be briefer and more of a check-in. PAs will be careful to work within their limitations, making referrals, including to me, as appropriate. They will also coordinate closely with the Caring Committee, which provides people in transition with practical short-term assistance, such as rides to the hospital or home-cooked meals to people following the death of a family member. Bob Coleman is the Caring Committee Coordinator through the end of June. Please see Bob if you know of someone who could use their assistance. In trainings with 90 pastoral associates from 22 UU congregations near Boston, I learned of thriving programs wherein even well-established church members with many friends still occasionally asked for a visit from a Pastoral Associate. It can be quite valuable to speak with someone who has a little distance from your situation: someone who is there to listen to you, ask a few questions, perhaps suggest resources or perspectives, including our UU Principles. I will continue to provide pastoral care directly, focusing on those whose situations call for a minister. I am greatly relieved to know that any one in this community who requests a pastoral visit will be able to receive it in a timely fashion. The PA program should help us become a true Church of the Open Heart. Beginning this month, far more people will be receiving pastoral visits. Eventually, dozens of members will be trained in the art of spiritual listening, which will have ripple effects of kindness and mindfulness throughout our community and beyond. April 2008
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